Blogging for Validation

blogging for validation

When I first started blogging, I was so emotional about it. I took everyone’s reactions or lack of interest personally.

Rather than keep writing what I knew was on my heart, I would stop blogging. I would delete my social media accounts. A few weeks later I would pick it up again. I had to recreate new social media account names.

You guessed it. Eventually I would get discouraged again because there was still little instant gratification. So I’d quit, again. Delete all those new social media accounts, again. My first few years online I kept starting and stopping and feeling unfulfilled.

This start/stop, start/stop routine was making me coo-coo, not to mention showing everyone out there in blog land I was not a reliable source of information. Worse, it was obvious I wasn’t blogging for the right reasons!

I was blogging so people would tell me I was smart. I wanted the affirmation that I was a good homeschool mom. I needed comments because I was insecure. Sadly, I was seeking the praises of man! {John 12:43}

If you’re blogging to feel wonderful – you’re not blogging for the right reasons and you will feel more empty than when you started. Trust me. I know this one well.

I had to get away from blogging to find peace and confidence in who I am. It takes a strong understanding that what you want to share might go completely unnoticed. BUT – the joy in being obedient outweighs the worth of one comment.

I am good enough, I don’t need a blog comment to reaffirm that. I am a great teacher; I don’t need a twitter share to prove it. I am a wonderful mom; I don’t need a thumbs-up to know it.

Once you are confident in who you are in Christ, the comments (although nice) are no longer life support. You can stop sharing every life moment with the world because you know only ONE is watching, and smiling!

You can clearly and boldly share wisdom, ideas, and encouragement.

If you feel like quitting every other week, you might ask yourself why you’re feeling discouraged. Why are you relying on others’ approval to keep going. Do you need a break online to be filled up with God’s love?

Blogging can be fun. Blogging can be so beneficial to others. But blogging should not be where you find your validation.

You are a daughter of the King.
We should all be seeking only one comment, “Well done, good and faithful servant” {Matthew 25:23}.

Stef Layton
Stef is a homeschooling mom to two energetic superheroes. She believes in hands-on interest-led learning. Married to a busy traveling golf course architect, they have taken their homeschool on the road to enjoy many field trips. Stef is the Author of Educating Laytons, Conference Coordinator and Host of The Titus 2:1 Conference, Creator of The Homeschool Village, and Homeschool Community Manager for The Happy Housewife.
Stef Layton
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Stef is a homeschooling mom to two energetic superheroes. She believes in hands-on interest-led learning. Married to a busy traveling golf course architect, they have taken their homeschool on the road to enjoy many field trips. Stef is the Author of Educating Laytons, Conference Coordinator and Host of The Titus 2:1 Conference, Creator of The Homeschool Village, and Homeschool Community Manager for The Happy Housewife.

This Post Has 3 Comments

  1. Belinda

    Oh, I can totally identify with this … were you reading my mind?

    As I am getting ready to re-launch my blog at the beginning of the year, I need to just be open to what God places on my heart and write!

    ~B

  2. Joleen

    You are so right Stef! I didn’t really understand the blogging world until God gave me something to say. I rarely get any comments directly on my blog but I keep blogging because I know God is using my words to encourage other pastor’s wives. There is more conversation in the safety of our private FB group where pats on the back have been replaced with real life prayer requests and encouragement to stay close to our Lord. May you be blessed as your follow the Lord’s lead! – under the same wing, Joleen

  3. Shawna Wingert

    So well said! Amen.
    Thank you so much, Stef.

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