Circles of Friends

This post is from contributor, Vicki.

circles of friends

I’m old-school. I homeschool my kids and make eye contact with them each day. We have good family relationships IRL.

I work as a counselor and make eye contact with my clients. I have good IRL therapeutic relationships.

When my daughter-in-law, Ruth, taught me about online communities and blogging, I was dubious. But I trusted her. She had a monetized blog that helped put her through grad school. Her support system included good friends all over the country who she had never met IRL.

I did know from my own life that relationships come in concentric circles:

At the center are my closest friends and family

They can call me on my nonsense and pray with me at a deep and personal level.

The next circle includes my coffee-clatch friends and colleagues

We share about life, brainstorm together on projects, laugh a lot, and support each other in prayer.

The outside circle is full of happy acquaintances and colleagues

We work on projects together, tell a lot of jokes, pray together in times of acute stressors, and move on.

friendship circles

What surprised my old-school self was that my online community has followed the same pattern.

I am developing a very few center-circle friends.

I am astounded by the relationships that are developing at the second-circle level!

These friendships are supportive and real, even though there is no eye-contact…except at events like the 2:1 Conference.

My favorite circle has been Number 3: the happy acquaintances and colleagues circle.

This is an introvert’s dream come true. I have been blessed with a WHOLE BUNCH of friends who I am getting to know better and better as we share ideas and needs. When we get to meet IRL at events like 2:1 and elsewhere, it is fascinating to me that we don’t feel awkward at all! We are already friends, already know about life. The eye contact of IRL is not necessary, simply a lovely gift when it comes.

Inner Circle Friends

Because I am an introvert, I don’t run around looking to be connected with hundreds of IRL buddies. But in the online world, I am having a blast getting to know tons of fun acquaintances. My world has become a much broader and delightful place.

Ruth has finished grad school now and is interviewing for awesome jobs as an archivist. She has refined her postings to cover archiving, libraries, and the coding language that she has helped develop for those. She and my son, Dr. Micah Tillman (who posts for the pure social joy of being part of the philosophy community), are heading off to new adventures, but they’ll take their URL friends with them wherever they go.

I am thankful that I got to meet you IRL at 2:1. I’m also thankful for all my circles of URL friends!

What new-school ideas for such an old-school mom!

Vicki Tillman

Vicki Tillman

Blogger, Curriculum Developer at 7 Sisters Homeschool
Vicki loves homeschooling and has shown it by educating her own 5 kids for 20+ years and helping hundreds of local homeschool teens graduate and head off to college and careers. A member of the 7 Sisters Homeschool blogging/writing team, Vicki develops curriculum for middle and high schoolers. She also serves her community as a mental health counselor and career coach.
Vicki Tillman

Vicki Tillman

Vicki loves homeschooling and has shown it by educating her own 5 kids for 20+ years and helping hundreds of local homeschool teens graduate and head off to college and careers. A member of the 7 Sisters Homeschool blogging/writing team, Vicki develops curriculum for middle and high schoolers. She also serves her community as a mental health counselor and career coach.

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