When Our Homes Feel Out Of Control

The past six months have been some of the most difficult of my entire life.

My youngest son was hospitalized for almost two weeks in October, and our family has been reeling ever since.

Simple things seem hard –

Cleaning schedules

Meal plans

Homeschooling consistency

The laundry

I have yet to get these basics back on track.

Although my son is home now and doing well (Thank you Jesus!), I am finding it a challenge to recover from the trauma and stress of it all.


I have tried resetting our routines.

I have tried waking up earlier and staying up later.

I have tried and tried, and my best efforts have failed.

Last week, it occurred to me that I had yet to pray about these details. Somehow, it seemed too small compared to all that God had done and continues to do in healing my child, to pray about how to get my bathrooms cleaned. I have seen what feels like a miracle before my very eyes in the form of an eleven-year-old boy, once again running, climbing, and riding a bike.

Why should a home-keeping schedule even matter?


When Our Homes Feel Out Of Control

The truth is, in the grand scheme of things, my floors being cleaned or the math lesson getting done today is not terribly significant in the face of eternity.

It may not be significant in comparison, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t matter. The Bible is filled with examples of women working hard, serving their families, and creating homes that nourish and create a safe place to grow closer to Jesus.

And so, I prayed. I turned my home fully over to God and asked that He would inform my next steps and help me get our family back on track.

The very next morning, I read this verse.

“Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain.” Psalm 127:1

I had been laboring in vain, trying to do it all on my own, sure that the God of the universe, the God who was mighty to save my sweet son, was too far above the mundane to care about my house.

I was wrong.

It is all His. My routines. Our homeschool. The bathrooms that need to be cleaned. All of it is His.


Surrendering to this and allowing the Lord to take charge and “build my house” has been such a sweet reminder. He sees and carries us in the big things, yes, and He is just as present in the small.

I want to encourage you that if you are struggling in areas that seem mundane, this is all the more reason to cast your cares upon Him who is there beside you every step of the way.

He sees us.

He loves us.

He will build our homes for us.

Shawna Wingert

Shawna is a wife to a wacky, voice actor husband, and a momma to two uniquely challenged little boys. She finds herself increasingly required to live beyond the limits of her crazy self, and serve a wonderfully complex family -- where High Functioning Autism and Learning Disabilities are schooling her every single day. Passionately real, she takes an honest look at the messy and the painful, the sweet and the laughable, and how Jesus is in the midst of it all. You can find her at Not the Former Things and on Facebook

This Post Has 2 Comments

  1. Kristi

    Thank you for this reminder to lay everything in my everyday life before God!

  2. Tanya W

    Shawna, thank you so much for this very timely reminder. I have one child who has a chronic illness, one with learning disabilities and a gifted child. Right now, we are going through a time when my whole house feels out of control. I ended up managing on 4 hours of sleep or less in the autumn and was keeping up but it became ever so clear that I simply needed more sleep. I wasn’t functioning well and my homeschooled kids were not getting what they needed. Since then, we have moved from crisis to crisis and my home is truly in a shambles now.

    Like you, I have tried so many things to attempt to restore order. But…I haven’t prayed about it and asked the Lord to guide me in my day. Thank you so much for sharing this article! I am printing out Psalm 127:1 and using it to remind myself that the Lord will build my house and help me.

    Take care and many thanks. The Lord used your words to bless me today.

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