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Laundry has been a thorn in my side for as long as I can remember. I have vivid teenage memories of digging through piles of clothes in my bedroom – not knowing what’s clean and what’s dirty – in order to piece together an acceptable school outfit.
I’ve just never been good at it. Laundry is always the first thing I let go at busy times.
Have a new baby? Laundry piles up.
Kids get sick? Laundry piles up.
Overfill the schedule? Laundry piles up.
Decide I need a Netflix binge…(guilty). Laundry piles up.
It’s my thing. We all have a thing. Maybe your thing is the dishes. Maybe it is vacuuming. Maybe it’s the mail pile. My point is, we all have our own thorn-in-our-side thing. And it’s hard.
Why The Guilt
I’ve wanted to be a mom for as long as I can remember. I struggle knowing the day will soon come when all my birds leave the nest. I don’t struggle because my identity is wrapped up in being a mom, or because I have nothing else to do; I have hobbies and businesses. I struggle because I really like being a mom! It’s a passion.
But then I wonder…“If I like it so much, how come I struggle?” This is the answer I feel the Lord has pressed on my heart.
EVEN GOOD, DESIRABLE THINGS TAKE WORK.
Oh how I wish things I love came naturally. But on this side of heaven, they just don’t (not all the time). Even Adam had to work the garden!
Flip The Perception
I’ve had to work very hard to change my perception about laundry. It’s been…
A thorn in my side
One more thing to do
A never ending job
When really, it’s just part of life. It’s an extension of caring for these children I love so much. It sounds trite, but really it’s about seeing the work as part of my greater blessing. Honestly, that’s not easy when daily I’m affronted with a dirty laundry hamper.
And, a little self-help hasn’t hurt either. How To Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind was a breath of fresh air for me! It helped me understand, and accept, how my “slob brain” works. (Warning: this book is not for the mildly disorganized, it’s for self professed slobs.)
In The Words Of That Disney Movie
Let it go! Truly, let go of the guilt. We spend too much time concentrating on what we lack, rather than what we already have. And you know what? I feel like that’s offensive to God.
He’s given me so many gifts, so many blessings, to lament that I don’t have the “laundry gene” is laughable. So, I have some work to do and skills to learn.
It’s a challenge, not a deficiency.
You were born with everything you need to be all God created you to be. If he created you to be a mom, that doesn’t mean it will all come easy. It means you have the wit, strength, and tenacity to develop all the skills you need to do your job well.
Who’s afraid of a little elbow grease? Not me!
So, I’ve shared “my thing” is laundry. I’d love to know, what’s your thing?
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